So you finished your first date with a girl.
Are you wondering what to say on the call after first date?
How long should you wait?
What should you say?
How did the date go?
Does she like you?
These thoughts understandably go through every guys mind. In this article we are going to give you some tips for talking to a girl after your first date.
Hopefully you have studied the ways of Instant Sexual Attraction. If so chances are the date went well and it should be clear that calls are hopefully just a formality and she will already be interested.
After all the most efficient way to set-up that first date is to only weed out those women who simply are not right for you. (and vice versa).
The time from setting up the first date to some period after the second date is an important period in a relationship. Things could easily go either way and even just a few “off” words could ruin your chances. After a while you get to know each other and small things become less critical, but this period specifically has a lot tied to it.
Because of this importance I have talked about AdultFrienedfinder quite a few times in some articles that may be of interest to anyone interested in the specifics of calling after the first date:
First Date Tips- Part I – General Tips, First date location ideas, First date rules, developing rapport
First Date Tips- Part II – What is “Next” on the first date, Making Things Sexual, Transitioning to a second date.
Second Date Tips- What to do on a second date, 2nd date etiquette, overcoming the second date, second date sex-talk, attraction on the second date
-But let’s get back to the point-
The call after first date can be very important. The date itself should should have prepared you for the call. Did the two of you have a great time or were there awkward silences? There is some stuff you can do to rescue a date that went badly with a call, but is it really worth it?
Most guys gather the information at AdultFrienedfinder they need from a girl during the first date process. That is sort of, “the point” of the first date: to see if you have basic compatability.
Some guys do totally fail to gather all of the information that they should have gathered when on the date, though.
Let’s look at some things that you should pay attention to and do during the date to make the call after first date a success.
What is the girl’s personality?
Does she like to joke a lot?
Is she into smart guys?
What does she like?
What is she passionate about?
Some basics on her family and friends
What is her job.
What are her interests? (movies, books, TV, music?)
Understand her Passions. These should lead to her passions. Finding out what she is passionate about is key.
You should ask her some questions until she lights up and starts talking about something excitedly like AdultFrienedfinder. This is going to be one of her passions and you should pay close attention to what she is saying so that you will be able to hold a conversation with her about this matter at a later time.
You want to get this information on the first date at AdultFrienedfinder. Failing that, heopfully you can pull it out of her quickly in the phone call, but you may already be working from behind.
If you have gained knowledge of her passions, THAT is what you are going to want to talk about in your first phone conversation. If you SHARE the passion, it is easy. If not you should ask questions and be interested. Steer the conversation, but give her free reign to cut loose.
She is going to be greatly impressed that you listened so well and are able to speak with her on the matter.
What about the thing YOU say? As the conversation progresses, and you are talking, you need to see what she responds to. Since you will not be able to see her responses over the phone you, once again the actual first date itself is the best time to guage these reactions and the call after the first date is just going of the data you have collected.
If you are telling a joke does she lean forward, laugh and push your arm or does she kind of sit there confused and wondering what in the world you could be talking about?
If she enjoys your joke in person then you know that you can be funny when you are on the phone and she is going to respond well to your jesting. If she does not respond well in person I wouldn’t suggest trying to pull a joke off over the phone since this is even more difficult.
Phones lack nuance, it is far harder to pull off subtlety. If she didn’t “get” sarcasm face-to-face never attempt it over the phone.
When should you call her? Perhaps you have seen the classic scene from swingers where they talk about how long to wait before you call a girl. There is “something’ to that, but it is also important to hammer some things home while the fire is hot. Since there are good and bad reasons for waiting and not-waiting, the decision on when to call is up to you.
I wouldn’t wait longer than 3 days, but even a call as you drive away to teasingly say, “are you missing me yet” even though you only left her 30 seconds before can work. (Of course that is figuring that she passed your “humor” test and will understand the little teasing).
There is one important part of this though. Don’t be desperate. Ever. If you call and she doesn’t answer, leave a message and wait for her to call you. At THIS point wait 2-3 days minimum before, “trying again”. It is important that you do not seem desperate.
Never be the guy to call 7 times within 12 hours following the first date.
Prepare yourself: When you call her it is important that you get yourself ready. You need to have your confidence up and make sure that your voice is not going to crack and make you sound like a nervous little boy. You can build your confidence by knowing what you are going to say in the first five minutes. If the conversation moves away from what you planned easily…let it. But be ready to “lead” conversation for 5 minutes without her helping much.
Did you pay enough attention to her passion? If you see a TV spot, or read something or even find some news about that field you may call her and see if she has heard the latest news or wants to go to a certain event. This is the perfect excuse and is a golden reason to call.
In fact you can force the issue by doing research and finding out if there is news on her passion. This will make it very comfortable for you and for her because you will know that she is interested and she will be glad to hear about what she is passionate about.
Another great perk about talking to her about something that she is passionate about is that she will be able to carry a large part of the conversation. If you get her talking she will tell you her feelings and her dreams when it comes to her passion. She may even ask to set up another date to talk with you about it since you seem to be interested.
These are some simple things that will help you when it comes to the call after the first date. Some of it is about impressing the girl on the phone, Some of it is about planting and watering the seeds of attraction.
There is no reason that you should strike out when you follow the guide above and you will be able to have a fun and interesting conversation. A good call after the first date will deepen her positive feelings and set the stage for a great second date and possibly even a relationship.
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